I have a few questions for you about social media. I try to limit my contacts and followings, because I like it to be SOCIAL. I want it to be people I like to interact with. Comment and write messages to. I have no interest in having 500 Facebook friends just for the sake of the number, but never being in contact with them. So I'm wondering when people ask to be added to your friend list on Facebook and you don't want to, do you feel like you should give them an explanation? This happens to me with students, students' parents and coworkers for instance. I want to keep things professional as a teacher, and I don't think that these people need to see my private Facebook pages.
I also "clean" my friends list regularly, and remove people that I haven't had any contact with on Facebook for a long time. Should you just remove people, or write them a message and explain why they are being removed? I'm thinking most of them won't notice it since we are not in contact, then why draw attention to it? The thing is I have had angry mails from people asking why I have removed them from my list. Sigh.
On Instagram do you always re-follow the people that follow you? (Given you're not a celeb ofcourse...)
If people want to friend me on Facebook, but I don't really want to interact with them, I friend them and then remove them from my feed, so they don't show up and clutter my main page.
I don't always re-follow people who follow me either, but then again, I don't expect the people I follow to follow me back. I guess it's more about expectations.
I don't friend anyone from my professional office, as I don't really want them seeing my private status' either. If they ask, I simply state that I don't friend anyone from work on Facebook, but they can connect to me on LinkedIn if they want.
I am friends with people that I only "know" through scrapping. If someone clearly has 1000 friends and just wants to up their numbers, I won't accept. I also clean out people who post things I don't want to read. ;) I've never felt like I need to give anyone an explanation...it's your life...your account. I wouldn't worry! If they are offended they need to get a reality check!!
I don't accept people I don't really "know" and I wonder why they are asking me. But if i feel like I should(say a cousin that I don't really know) I still accept and that's fine..
sometimes there's the people that update like 6x an hr(or day but feels the same) who I feel bad to delete, so I just hide them from my news feed. Every few months I can just search them and check up on their life if I feel inclined to do so, but then I'm not *constantly* annoyed by the constant updates!
I will only friend people on facebook that I know well. For the most part I have no one from work on there and when some people from work have requested to be added I just ignored it and moved on. I haven't had anyone question me on it and I'm not sure I'd know what to say if they did. Maybe I would jsut say that I use Facebook for family and very close friends only? I'm honeslty not sure! lol
As far as Instagram I will usually follow people that follow me but don't expect others to do the same.
As far as students and parents of students, my sister had a few kids in her class try to friend her on facebook and she jsut refused. Once of them asked her why and she said that she didn't think it was a good idea since she was their teacher and not their friend. She told them they could come talk to her whenever they wanted but she didn't feel comfortable adding them on facebook.
I do the same thing as Holly does with FB. Say yes but just keep them from my feed.
I don't accept people I don't even though they were from the same school, etc. I also don't have current colleagues in my friends list. No twitter (except to follow SC and a few people), and no instagram too (oh, the shocker!). lol.. I purge my friends list more often than I do my scrap room. lol..
I don't accept every friend request that comes through. I have nephews that have sent requests and I've ignored - they are not much older than my eldest and I think he (and they) are too young to be on FB... and I don't want to censor what I say because they might read things I would rather they didn't etc.
I also unfriend people where I don't like what they're writing. I also don't have work contacts on my list. I do have people on my list even though we don't interact regularly, but I still like to have an occasional interaction with. I have quite a few that have been cyber friends only - but we interact with each other a good amount. I also don't tend to send a message when I purge my list.
Having said that, I had a nasty message from someone that was on my friend list but whom I rarely spent time with anymore since her and her husband split. It was a typical reaction to want to go back and pretty much say "WTF??" and only at that point did I discover she had unfriended me. Now THAT made my blood boil.... it's like when someone has a go at you then slams the door in your face before you get the chance to defend yourself!! LOL
I guess the end of the story is really, it's your list, do what you feel comfortable with :)
It really just depends, if i know people, i usually add/accept their requests.
If i know them i will accept there request , i hate hurting feelings but if they are like my neice and every time she blows her nose and tells us i just hide the feed